ctrzaska said:
I think it's less public shaming and more public expressing of horror and disbelief. And no, sorry, you don't get a honeymoon period on this kind of stuff.
sprout said:
I'm going to suggest:
==== TIME OUT on the student/parent/administration bashing =====
While I know emotions are running high (and @cleg, I admire your restraint), perhaps the pile-on of public shaming/reprimands can be reeled in a bit.
These are our neighbors. Even the new MMS Principal.
(After the middle school meeting I believe I heard the new MMS Principal telling someone that he lives in Maplewood, and his kids (who were also at that meeting) attend school in SOMSD.
This is likely to be the new Principal's trial-by-fire. Perhaps we can wait and see how the dust settles before piling on with additional critiques.
I'm hoping that this ends up being a learning experience for students, parents, and school administration, which leads to improvements, and good preparation for the future.
mjh said:
ctrzaska said:
I think it's less public shaming and more public expressing of horror and disbelief. And no, sorry, you don't get a honeymoon period on this kind of stuff.
I think it becomes public shaming when the same people have to keep expressing their outrage/horror/disbelief etc. etc. 50 times in the same thread.
tjohn said:
No point to shaming at this point. The people being shamed are now taking action. The perpetrators aren't being shamed. They need to stop or be expelled. Involving the police is a good first step. What additional useful steps would you recommend at this point.
calliope said:
These are middle schoolers, and as smart and savvy as they may be, they are hardly equipped to determine how to handle this matter. There are many wise and helpful suggestions here, but none of those suggest self-help on the part of the victims. Please consider contacting an attorney,immediately. This is not a petty annoyance, it is a crime. The school is charged with a mandate to provide a safe atmosphere in which to learn. They are not living up to that mandate.
sarahzm said:
What if there were a pack of students hounding other students in the halls touching them inappropriately saying ni****, ni****, ni****, or fag***, fag***. Suppose this had gone on for years and multiple complaints by parents went unanswered. Would anyone say start small, take a time out, stop the shaming?.
Jackson_Fusion said:
tjohn said:
No point to shaming at this point. The people being shamed are now taking action. The perpetrators aren't being shamed. They need to stop or be expelled. Involving the police is a good first step. What additional useful steps would you recommend at this point.
1) an investigation into how prior complaints were handled, with an emphasis on whether or not the MOU linked earlier was violated and by whom. If the MOU is found to have not applied to a circumstance, why.
2) Re- training of school personnel to remind them of their responsibility to report criminal sexual crimes immediately. Note that, again, nobody saw anything- I'm speaking specifically of staff. The young lady had to go make a complaint herself. This has been a common theme for all those discussing their experiences on this site. Either supervision sucks or they're not reporting what they see.
There is no wiggle there, it's one or the other. Let's find out which.
3) A report to the board of complaints made and actions taken. Every complaint should be recorded, and outcomes shared.
That's for starters. The issue, TJ, is that once you turn away, those with an interest in not reporting, for whatever reason, will go back to doing what they're doing. It appears (and let's have an inquiry to see if appearances are what they seem) that there is a concerted effort to suppress these complaints. If that's the case, any action taken this week is window dressing and people will go back to doing what they always did- and the girls will still be there.
Jackson_Fusion said:
3) A report to the board of complaints made and actions taken. Every complaint should be recorded, and outcomes shared.
orzabelle said:
It's also about the idea that girls, and their safety and autonomy, don't really matter enough. Awful that they are getting this message so young.
sprout said:
Jackson_Fusion said:
3) A report to the board of complaints made and actions taken. Every complaint should be recorded, and outcomes shared.
There is already a HIB (harassment, intimidation, bullying) section on the agenda of every board meeting. You can see the affirmations of the investigations listed in the minutes, but it's likely there are confidentiality rules around these reports preventing 'sharing' with the public.
Rivoli said:
sarahzm said:
What if there were a pack of students hounding other students in the halls touching them inappropriately saying ni****, ni****, ni****, or fag***, fag***. Suppose this had gone on for years and multiple complaints by parents went unanswered. Would anyone say start small, take a time out, stop the shaming?.
+1
dg64 said:
In our experience (from about 2 years ago at MMS) not every complaint of this nature (in our case, most complaints) was treated as HIB. Most often, there was no action or if there was action it was verbal action. Nothing written.
sprout said:
dg64 said:
In our experience (from about 2 years ago at MMS) not every complaint of this nature (in our case, most complaints) was treated as HIB. Most often, there was no action or if there was action it was verbal action. Nothing written.
Here are the NJ DOE's recommendations of how to proceed:
http://www.state.nj.us/education/students/safety/behavior/hib/hibassistance.shtml
The escalation processes are exactly the processes needed when the school and district ignores an HIB complaint. Specific timelines are given. Besides documenting escalation within the education system, through county and the commissioner of education alternate options are given such as filing a civil rights complaint, filing a police report and filing a complaint with superior court.dg64 said:
sprout said:
dg64 said:
In our experience (from about 2 years ago at MMS) not every complaint of this nature (in our case, most complaints) was treated as HIB. Most often, there was no action or if there was action it was verbal action. Nothing written.
Here are the NJ DOE's recommendations of how to proceed:
http://www.state.nj.us/education/students/safety/behavior/hib/hibassistance.shtml
Yeah, sure. There are processes to escalate your complaints. The issue at MMS for a while has/had been that unless the words bullying were invoked, no one in the admin made a proactive attempt to start a HIB investigation. So, if a parent/child was not aware of what constituted as HIB they were left high and dry.
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==== TIME OUT on the student/parent/administration bashing =====
While I know emotions are running high (and @cleg, I admire your restraint), perhaps the pile-on of public shaming/reprimands can be reeled in a bit.
These are our neighbors. Even the new MMS Principal.
(After the middle school meeting I believe I heard the new MMS Principal telling someone that he lives in Maplewood, and his kids (who were also at that meeting) attend school in SOMSD.
This is likely to be the new Principal's trial-by-fire. Perhaps we can wait and see how the dust settles before piling on with additional critiques.
I'm hoping that this ends up being a learning experience for students, parents, and school administration, which leads to improvements, and good preparation for the future.