Suicide Isn't Painless...Updated

... who might have been in contact with her while she was at her sister's home in Long Island :-(

A friend has reached out to all and hasn't heard back but did hear from a friend of Laura's that this is true. Sad but true. RIP my friend. I'm in shock.
Such a loving, talented person who always did more than one would think possible.

I spoke to Dan. Laura suddenly collapsed and could not be revived. She's gone.

I can't believe I am writing this.

Someone seems to be confirming it on the related thread.

How awful. May she rest in peace.

This is truly awful. Condolences to Laura's family.

@jamie Maybe sink this thread and let the other JML thread stay up?

MY GOD. Oh Laura. RIP.

Heartbreaking.

This is overwhelming.!! RIP Laura Grace.......

Wow, I'm in shock! I know the family IRL. God bless her and her family.

Here's a link to the thread about Laura's passing.

http://forum.maplewoodonline.com/discussion/115521/rip-laura-nichols-aka-justmelaura#Item_33

Good rest, Laura, to your soul. May your and your sister's families find the strength in the days, years ahead. This thread is such a window to your heart and mind. With love, always, we will miss you.

Oh my God, how awful. I have been a passive viewer of this thread, and did not post my condolences as I did not know Laura beyond this board. However, I felt like I knew her as we seemed to agree on a lot and enjoyed similar things. I said to myself many times that I should reach out to her and get to know her personally, beyond just MOL, but I never did. It was just last week I participated in the Beatles thread that she started.

RIP Laura.

To people that knew her, what was she like?

Laura was never without a bright and genuine smile. Never. She loved people and no matter how hard times were for herself, she always gave everything she had. BPS was struggling to stay afloat and she was donating BBQ Slider Parties for 10 to anyone who asked. Her BPS was truly a one of a kind place. BPS was the embodiment of Laura.

She was saucy too. She had a sparkle in her eye. I can't imagine Maplewoodstock without Laura. I can't imagine this entire community without her.

So sad. From all that everyone has said about her on this thread and the other one, I really missed out by not getting to know her in a more personal way.

Laura was an early and regular MOL-poster. It was a regular thing to wake up early in the morning and find a very funny thread she started in the middle of the night. Somewhere in the MOL archives there are dozens of these threads.

I didn't know Laura well at all but I'm heartbroken. She was lovely and talented. She catered such a beautiful party for my daughter's high school graduation last June. We loved working with her and I wish I had had the opportunity to know her better.

wharfrat said:

Laura was an early and regular MOL-poster. It was a regular thing to wake up early in the morning and find a very funny thread she started in the middle of the night. Somewhere in the MOL archives there are dozens of these threads.

I'd forgotten about those threads!

I just went to look at her discussions and was surprised by this:

http://forum.maplewoodonline.com/discussion/114583/for-mr.-incredibles-eyes-only...

I'm fighting back tears. I missed it because when she tagged it to my screen name she put in a period so the tag didn't alert me. I wish I had seen it, because I would have replied to her and maybe stopped in to see her.

I only met her once or twice...at Mapelwoodstock. She made a mean mean vegetable chili. I loved reading her posts, felt like I knew her, and Max. I feel like we lost an outstanding member of our community, and my heart breaks for her family. Rest in Peace.

@mrincredible, based on your posts here, I know you were a devoted customer and good friend. Sad times.

Starsong said:

I only met her once or twice...at Mapelwoodstock. She made a mean mean vegetable chili. I loved reading her posts, felt like I knew her, and Max. I feel like we lost an outstanding member of our community, and my heart breaks for her family. Rest in Peace.

Incomparable and irreplaceable.

-s.

I keep thinking about Laura's sister. I can't imagine the absolute hell she must be going through right now.....

Our world has lost a real light.

Shocking and many prayers for surviving sister, Dan and all the family!

Best Regards,
Ron Carter

afa said:

I keep thinking about Laura's sister. I can't imagine the absolute hell she must be going through right now.....

There's a fundraiser for Laura's sister. He was the breadwinner of the family.

http://www.youcaring.com/memorial-fundraiser/the-allain-family/331200

Thank you very much for sharing that link.

Like so many others, I am shocked and reeling from the events of the last several days. When I read this post just a day or two after Laura's BIL died by suicide, I felt simply heartbroken knowing how much Laura has gone though and all she was now facing. As usual, I was touched by her raw compassion and openess as she struggled to come to grips with Adrian's death and her sister and nieces/nephews devastation and her clear desire to help her sister through this incomprehensible tragedy. Less then 24 hours after her last post I stayed up late writing a response, collecting some books to bring over to her and wondering how I might be of some, if any, assistance as a result of my experience working with suicide survivors. I looked forward to connecting with her. The minute I had met Laura, I knew she was a very special person who one could almost instantaneously love.

As I tried to formulate a response to her post, I kept thinking I should go to bed and send her a message in the morning but something would not let me. Little did I know that as I wrote to her just after 2 am, she was losing her life. I can only hope that perhaps something I've said might be of use to someone else one day, who knows. Or maybe her sister will one day read through this thread and have this clear and lasting communication from Laura of just how much she loved her and wanted to be there for her. It is impossible to fathom what her sister and family must be experiencing, how they are getting through each minute of the day. My heart goes out to all of them and to all who loved her. She will be greatly missed and has indeed left a massive gaping hole in the fabric of her family as well as our community.

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afa said:

I keep thinking about Laura's sister. I can't imagine the absolute hell she must be going through right now.....

Exactly what I have been feeling.

mlj said:

afa said:

I keep thinking about Laura's sister. I can't imagine the absolute hell she must be going through right now.....

Exactly what I have been feeling.

Yes. Beyond words.

My mom, at 25 with two small children, lost her husband and then her father within a week. She survived with the help of her family and friends. Laura's sister , children and loved ones will need all the love and support that is possible. There will be a whirlwind of support right now, but when if become quiet again, we must be there for them and continue to envelope them in our love